Mock exams are essential for preparing your teenager and helping them know what to expect during actual exams. However, what if your child is struggling to handle this pressure?
The pressure to succeed in exams can often overwhelm children, leading to feelings of stress and anxiety. This pressure may come from their own expectations or from those around them. It’s completely normal to feel anxious at such times, but for some young people, the pressure can become unbearable.
My daughter, like many children, finds the mere thought of revision overwhelming. I often find her in my office until 10 PM studying, which I admire as her mother, but it also worries me. While I’m proud of her determination, I fear it’s contributing to her elevated stress and anxiety levels.She is not alone, so here are some strategies I’ve implemented that may alleviate pressure and provide your teen with some comfort during this challenging time:
- Create a realistic revision timetable by listing the subjects and topics they need to focus on. Being organised can help reduce stress.
- During exam season, it’s crucial to manage time effectively. Help your child maintain a healthy balance between practice papers and enjoyable activities. Taking breaks is essential, as long periods of uninterrupted study can overwhelm young minds, making it hard to concentrate. Remember to include regular breaks in revision schedules, keeping in mind that the average attention span is around 40 minutes.
- Engaging in physical activity during breaks is a great way to lower anxiety levels and help them relax. Even simple activities, like walking up and down the stairs, can help shift focus and refresh the mind.
- Keep in mind that everyone revises differently. Some children may breeze through practice papers after a short break, while others might prefer starting their revision after dinner. Observe how effective they are at different times of the day and explore various study methods, such as practice papers, spelling drills in the garden, or math quizzes during bath time.
- Encourage them to seek help from their teacher if they encounter topics they don’t understand.
- Always offer encouragement and support—avoid criticism and refrain from adding extra pressure.
- Praising and recognising their efforts and accomplishments can be motivating and reinforces your support for them.
- Help them maintain perspective and encourage them to do the same—remember that exam results are not the sole measure of a young person’s potential.
There are wonderful organisations such as Young Minds UK that can offer assistance for both you and your child. When I realised my daughter was feeling overwhelmed, I contacted her school, and they quickly put in place several support measures.
If your child is experiencing a loss of appetite, voicing negative thoughts about life, exhibiting aggressive behavior, or appearing sad and hesitant to go out or attend school, please consult your GP for guidance.
We all desire for our children to flourish, but not at the expense of their well-being. It’s important to provide them with reassurance and support, trusting that their hard work will yield the results they deserve. Keep in mind that the objective isn’t solely to prepare for exams, but also to help your teen feel supported and confident in their capabilities.
Wishing you all the best of luck!
Love Eliza x